Her cousin Randy Sample said, "It's to enlighten or lighten and take the mind off of what's actually going on and try to remember the good times with Fredricka."
Allen is described as a happy, outgoing and energetic 4-year-old who lit up a room.
While they remembered the good times in Rosharon, it was difficult to escape the present.
"I'm just speechless, no one should have to go through this for a four year old. It's hurtful, painful, dad is at a loss for words. He can't speak. Grandma can barely walk in," said Sample.
Laquita Lewis is charged with killing her own daughter.
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She allegedly texted Allen's father saying she was sorry shortly after the crime.
Harris County Sheriff's Deputies found Allen's body at her mother's apartment on Timber Creek Place Drive on the northwest side.
The mother was in court last November accused of making a threat on her 16-year-old son with a knife.
The family says when the funeral is over and the phone calls and text messages stop, they will rely on one another.
"Prayer, it's the only thing we can do," said Sample.
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